Wednesday, September 29, 2021

kshama

 Kshama is a Sanskrit word that relates to the acts of patience, releasing time and functioning in the now. Macdonell defines it as: "patience, forbearance, indulgence". Kshama also indicates extreme patience and a capacity to forgive and forget. 

Kshama is a Sanskrit word with various layers of meaning. It relates to releasing time and living in the present, and can be thought of as a kind of extreme patience. Kshama also means forbearance and forgiveness, and can refer to the capacity to forgive others and forget the past.


Kshama is a concept commonly found in Yogic or Hindu scriptures, such as the Shandilya and Varaha Upanishads and the Hatha Yoga Pradipika by Gorakshanatha.

Kshama forms one of the 10 yamas (restraints), which make up the code of proper conduct as prescribed by the Upanishads, an ancient Vedic text. The 10 yamas are:

  1. Ahimsa or Non-injury
  2. Satya or Truthfulness
  3. Asteya or Nonstealing
  4. Brahmacharya or Sexual Purity
  5. Kshama or Patience
  6. Dhriti or Steadfastness
  7. Daya or Compassion
  8. Arjava or Honesty
  9. Mitahara or Moderate Diet
  10. Saucha or Purity.

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In the great Hindu epic Mahabharata, Yudhisthira was the eldest son of King Pandu and Queen Kunti, king of Hastinapura and Indraprastha, and World Emperor. He was the principal protagonist of the Kurukshetra War, and for his unblemished piety, known as Dharmaraja (Most pious one). Some sources describe him to be an adept warrior with the Spear.

Yudhisthira's father Pandu, the king of Hastinapura, soon after his marriage accidentally shot a Brahmin and his wife, mistaking them for deer, while the couple were making love. Before he died, the Brahmin cursed the king himself to die at once, the minute he engaged in intercourse with one of his two wives. Due to this curse, Pandu was unable to father children. In additional penance for the murder, Pandu also abdicated the crown to his blind brother Dhritarashtra.[citation needed]

Yudhisthira therefore was conceived in an unusual way. His mother, Queen Kunti, had in her youth been granted the power to invoke the Devas by Rishi Durvasa. Each god, when invoked, would place a child in her lap. Urged by Pandu to use her invocations, Kunti gave birth to Yudhisthira by invoking the Lord of Righteousness, Dharma. Being Pandu's eldest son, Yudhisthira was the rightful heir to the throne. However, this claim was contested by the Dhritarashtra's son, Duryodhana.

Yudhisthira's four younger brothers were Bhima, (born by invoking Vayu); Arjuna, (born by invoking Indra); and the twins Nakula and Sahadeva, (born by invoking the Ashwini Gods). If Karna, the son of Kunti born before her marriage by invoking Surya is counted, Yudhisthira would be the second-eldest of five Pandava brothers.

Yudhisthira was trained in religion, science, administration and military arts by the Kuru preceptors Kripa and Drona. He was a master of the spear weapon, and a maharatha, capable of combating 10,000 opponents all together at a time.[citation needed]

Yudhisthira is also known as Bharata (Descendent of the line of Bharata) and Ajatashatru (One Without Enemies).

Yudhisthira's true prowess was shown in his unflinching adherence to satya (truth) and dharma (righteousness), which were more precious to him than any royal ambitions, material pursuits and family relations.

Yudhisthira rescued Bhima from Yama, and all of his four brothers from death by exemplifying not only his immense knowledge of dharma but also his very own way of understanding the finer implications of dharma, as judged by Yama, who was testing him in the guise of a Crane and a Yaksha.

Yudhisthira's dharma was markedly distinct from that of other righteous kings. He married Draupadi along with his four brothers, he had Bhima marry an outcast Rakshasi, he termed "prayer" as "poison", he saw an uneventful life with no credit and a belly full of food at the end of the day as happiness, he denounced casteism, saying a Brahmin is known by his actions and not his birth or education--thus portraying the real changeable dharma, the dharma that modifies itself to suit the times.

Due to his piety, Yudhisthira's feet and his chariot do not touch the ground, to symbolize his purity.

Yudhisthira and his brothers were favored by the Kuru elders like Bhishma, Vidura ,Kripa and Drona over Duryodhana and his brothers, the Kauravas, due to their devotion to their elders, pious habits and great aptitude in religion and military skills, and all the necessary qualifications for the greatest of the kshatriya order.

Yudhisthira married the Panchali princess Draupadi, who bore him his son Prativindya.

When the Pandavas came of age, King Dhritarashtra sought to avoid a conflict with his sons, the Kauravas, by giving Yudhisthira half the Kuru kingdom, albeit the lands which were arid, unprosperous and scantily populated, known as Khandavaprastha.

But with the help of Yudhisthira's cousin Krishna, a new city, Indraprastha, was constructed by the Deva architect Viswakarman. The Asura architect Mayasura constructed the Mayasabha, which was the largest regal assembly hall in the world. Yudhisthira was crowned king of Khandavaprastha and Indraprastha. As he governed with absolute piousness, with a strict adherence to duty and service to this people, his kingdom grew prosperous, and people from all over were attracted to it.

Yudhisthira performed the Rajasuya sacrifice to become the Emperor of the World. His motives were not to obtain power for himself, but to establish dharma and defend religion all over the world by suppressing the enemies of Krishna and sinful, aggressive kings.

Arjuna, Bhima, Nakula and Sahadeva led armies across the four corners of the world to obtain tributes from all kingdoms for Yudhisthira's sacrifice. At his sacrifice, Yudhisthira honored Krishna as the most famous and greatest personality. This incensed Sisupala, who proceeded to hurl several insults at Krishna and the Pandavas for selecting a "cowherd" for the great honor. When Sisupala's transgressions exceed the hundred pardons that Krishna had promised his mother, Krishna summons the sudarshana chakra to behead him. Following which, the yajna is completed successfully.

Yudhisthira was unable to refuse when Duryodhana's maternal uncle Shakuni, challenged him to a game of dice. Thanks to Shakuni's cheating, Yudhisthira lost each throw, eventually gambling away his kingdom, his wealth, his brothers and finally his wife. Owing to the protests of Vidura, Bhishma and Drona, Dhritarashtra returned all these losses. However, Shakuni challenged Yudhisthira one more time, and Yudhisthira once more lost. This time, he, his brothers and his wife were forced to discharge the debt by spending thirteen years in exile, with the condition of anonymity in the last year, in the forest before they could reclaim their kingdom.

Yudhisthira was criticized by Draupadi and Bhima for succumbing to temptation and playing dice, an art he was absolutely unskilled at, making the Pandavas prey to Shakuni and Duryodhana's evil designs. Yudhisthira reproached himself for weakness of mind, but at the time he argued that it was impossible to refuse a challenge of any nature, as he was a kshatriya and obliged to stand by the kshatriya code of honour.

During the thirteen years, he was repeatedly tested for staunch adherence to religious values in face of adversity.

The conditions of the debt required the Pandavas to disguise themselves and not be discovered during the last year of exile. Yudhisthira learned dice play from Narada Muni and assumed the guise of a brahmin courtier and dice player in the Matsya Rajya of king Virata.

When the period of exile was completed, Duryodhana and Shakuni nevertheless refused to return Yudhisthira's kingdom. Yudhisthira made numerous diplomatic efforts to retrieve his kingdom peacefully; all failed. To go to war to reclaim his birthright would mean fighting and killing his own relatives, an idea that appalled Yudhisthira. But Krishna, Yudhisthira's most trusted advisor (whom he recognized as the Avatara of Vishnu, the Supreme Godhead, Brahman), pointed out that Yudhisthira's claim was righteous, and the deeds of Duryodhana were evil. If all peace efforts failed, war was therefore a most righteous course. There are many passages in the Mahabharata in which Yudhisthira's will to fight a bloody war for the sake of a kingdom falters, but Krishna justifies the war as moral and as the unavoidable duty of all moral warriors.

In the war, the Kuru commander Drona was killing of thousands of Pandava warriors. Krishna hatched a plan to tell Drona that his son Ashwathama had died, so that the invincible and destructive Kuru commander would give up his arms and thus could be killed.

The plan was set in motion when Bhima killed an elephant named Ashwathama, and loudly proclaimed that Ashwathama was dead. Drona, knowing that only Yudhisthira, with his firm adherence to the truth, could tell him for sure if his son had died, approached Yudhisthira for confirmation. Yudhisthira told him: "Ashwathama has died". However Yudhisthira could not make himself tell a lie, despite the fact that if Drona continued to fight, the Pandavas and the cause of dharma itself would have lost and he added: "naro va kunjaro va" which means he is not sure whether elephant or man had died.

Krishna knew that Yudhisthira would be unable to lie, and had all the warriors beat war-drums and cymbals to make as much noise as possible. The words "naro va kunjaro va" were lost in the tumult and the ruse worked. Drona was disheartened, and laid down his weapons. He was then killed by Dhristadyumna.

When he spoke his half-lie, Yudhisthira's feet and chariot descended to the ground.[citation needed] However, Yudhisthira himself killed Shalya, the king of Madra and the last Kuru commander.

At the end of the war, Yudhisthira and the Pandava army emerged victorious, but Yudhisthira's children, the sons of Draupadi, and many Pandava heroes like Dhristadyumna, Abhimanyu, Virata, Drupada, Ghatotkacha were dead. Millions of warriors on both sides were killed.

Yudhisthira performed the tarpana ritual for the souls of the departed. Upon his return to Hastinapura, he was crowned king of both Indraprastha and Hastinapura.

Out of his piousness, Yudhisthira retained Dhristarashtra as the king of the city of Hastinapura, and offered him complete respect and deference as an elder, despite his misdeeds and the evil of his dead sons.

Yudhisthira later performed the Ashwamedha yagna (sacrifice) to re-establish the rule of dharma all over the world. In this sacrifice, a horse was released to wander for a year, and Yudhisthira's brother Arjuna led the Pandava army, following the horse. The kings of all the countries where the horse wandered were asked to submit to Yudhisthira's rule or face war. All paid tribute, once again establishing Yudhisthira as the undisputed Emperor of the World.

Upon the onset of the Kali yuga and the death of Krishna, Yudhisthira and his brothers retired, leaving the throne to their only descendant to survive the war of Kurukshetra, Arjuna's grandson Parikshita. Giving up all their belongings and ties, the Pandavas made their final journey of pilgrimage in the Himalayas.

While climbing the peaks, one by one Draupadi and each Pandava in reverse order of age fell to their deaths, dragged down by the weight of their guilt of few, but real sins. But Yudhisthira reached the mountain peak, because he was unblemished by sin or untruth.

The true character of Yuddhisthira is revealed at the end of the Mahabharata. On the mountain peak, Indra, King of Gods, arrived to take Yudhisthira to heaven in his Golden Chariot. As Yudhisthira was about to step into the Chariot, the Deva told him to leave behind his companion dog, an unholy creature not worthy of heaven. Yudhisthira stepped back, refusing to leave behind the creature who he had taken under his protection. Indra wondered at him - "You can leave your brothers behind, not arranging proper cremations for them...and you refuse to leave behind a stray dog!"

Yudhisthira replied, "Draupadi and my brothers have left me, not me [them]." And he refused to go to heaven without the dog. At that moment the dog changed into the God Dharma, his father, who was testing him...and Yudhisthira had passed with distinction.

Yudhisthira was carried away on Indra's chariot. On reaching Heaven he did not find either his virtuous brothers or his wife Draupadi. Instead he saw Duryodhana and his evil allies. The Gods told him that his brothers were in Naraka (hell) atoning their little sins, while Duryodhana was in heaven since he died at the blessed place of Kurukshetra.

Yudhisthira loyally went to Naraka (hell) to meet his brothers, but the sights and sounds of gore and blood horrified him. Tempted to flee, he mastered himself and remained on hearing the voice of his beloved brothers and Draupadi...calling out to him, asking him to stay with them in their misery. Yudhisthira decided to remain, ordering the Divine charioteer to return..preferring to live in hell with good people than in a heaven of evil ones. At that moment the scene changed. This was yet another illusion to test him on the one hand, and on other hand to enable him to atone for his sin of using deceit to kill Drona. Indra and Krishna appeared before him and told him that his brothers were already in Heaven, along with his enemies, for earthly virtues and vices don't hold true in heavenly realms. Krishna yet again hailed Yudhisthira for his dharma, and bowed to him, in the final defining moment of the epic where divinity bowed down to humanity. 

Tolerance

 the ability or willingness to tolerate the existence of opinions or behaviour that one dislikes or disagrees with.

"the tolerance of corruption"

The word Yudhishthira means "the one who is steady in the war", from the words, yuddha (युद्ध) meaning 'war', and sthira (स्थिर) meaning 'steady'.[2] His other names are-

  • Bharata Vanshi (भारत वंशी) – descendant of Bharata[3]
  • Ajatashatru (अजातशत्रु) – one who is born without enemies[4]
  • Dharmanandana (धर्म नंदन) or Dharmaputra - The son of Dharma (Righteousness) or Yamraj
  • Dharmaraja or Dharmaraya or Dharmaja (धर्मराज) - Lord of Dharma.
  • Panduputra (पांडुपुत्र) - Son of Pandu.
  • Pandavagrajah - Eldest of Pandavas.
  • Jyesthakaunteya - Eldest son of Kunti.
  • Sarvabhouma/Samrat Chakravarthi - Emperor of the complete planet Earth.
  • Kanka - another name for Yudhisthira given by Draupadi for the 13th year in exile.


Yudhisthira, the eldest of the Pandava brothers is hailed in the epic for his virtue. The name Yudhisthira resonates with qualities like honesty, justice, sagacity, tolerance, good behavior, and judge-mental skills.

During their schooling under Drona, he showed more skills and interest in learning administration, religion, philosophy and history. Contrary to many of the other kuru princes who specialized in martial arts. Yudhishthira also gained good skills in fighting with spear. He gained the confidence and love of all his elders that they saw him as the most qualified person to become the heir to the Kuru Kingdom.

Even the king Dhritharashtra could not reason with the elders in the kingdom to choose his own son ahead of Yudhisthira. Such was the good will that Yudhisthira earned.

While the tales of all his brothers, who went around conquering kingdoms to make him an emperor, are sung by storytellers across generations, the administrative and management skills of Yudhisthira are often forgotten.

During their 12 year exile period as well, Yudhisthira was the one who more easily adjusted to the new life style, because he brought this upon himself and others. He was more than willing to avoid a war if Duryodhana was willing to spare just 5 villages for him and his brothers.

The Mahabharata war also presents a handful of heroics that Yudhisthira performed during the 18 day war – including the killing of the mighty Shalya on the last day of the war – all this despite being the weaker link among the Pandavas when it comes to combat skills.

He stood tall to hold his family together upon the unexpected demise of their father (and mother Madri). His brothers blindly followed his orders, and he tried to avoid conflict with the Kauravas whenever possible.

He easily forgave Duryodhana for the plot to kill his family in the House of lac at Varanavat. He even settled down for the barren land and forest of Khandavaprastha to avoid a conflict within the family.

Despite being deprived of all his wealth and humiliated during the game of dice, he ordered his brothers to fight for and save Duryodhana when he was made captive by Chitrasena.

And during the incognito period as well, he accepted his destiny and worked literally as a jester at Virata’s court. Before the battle, he was willing to take any form of compromise to avoid a battle with his brothers and his elders. All of these show the resilience and tolerance of Yudhisthira, the Emperor.

he had taken an oath not to say no nor to refuse anything, hoping in this way to avoid conflict with others, and keep the Kuru clan in peace.

When the invitation came from Dhritharashtra for a game of dice, he could not refuse. Secondly, it was the accepted norm for the royals(Kshatriya dharma) to accept the invitation to a game of dice/ gambling, and any refusal would be construed either as being rude, or a sign of cowardice.

Yudhishthira vacillated a good deal before finally accepting the invitation to gamble. But, Shakuni, the master schemer as he was, knowingly exploited Yudhishthira’s weakness and also taunted him as a coward when he initially hesitated to respond.

Though these factors may explain why Yudhishthira chose to play the game of dice, these do not explain why a person of his character and caliber should become so obsessive to pledge all his wealth, kingdom, his own brothers and even his queen. It’s here that his addiction to the game becomes a bit evident.

In a nutshell, It was a combination of his weakness for gambling, the tenets of Kshatriya dharma and, his hesitation to deny Dhritharashtra’s invitation which forced Yudhishthira to accept the challenge to play the game of dice, even though he was fully aware of underlying traps and deceitful schemes.

This changed the destiny of the Kuru kingdom and was the trigger behind the creation of such a magnificent epic  Mahabharata.

No better example than Yudhishthira for the nature of Tolerance.

Tuesday, September 28, 2021

Lajja

 Lajja is one of the five niyamas. These are rules that show how a sadhaka (spiritual disciple) should live their life and deal with issues regarding their inner Self.


Lajja means "shame" when translated into English. The basic concept is that the sadhaka should be ashamed only of the bad things in life, but not of the good things.

Shyness is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social anxiety or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what they want to out of fear of negative reactions, being laughed at, humiliated or patronized, criticized or rejected. A shy person may simply opt to avoid social situations instead.

Lajjā (लज्जा, “modesty”):—One of the names attributed to Devī, as chanted by the Vedas in their hymns, who were at the time incarnated in their personified forms. See the Devī-bhāgavata-purāṇa chapter 5.51-68, called “the narrative of Hayagrīva”.

Source: Google Books: Manthanabhairavatantram

Lajjā (लज्जा) refers to “bashfulness”.—The Kubjikāmatatantra tell us that the goddess who emerges from the Liṅga is bent (kubjarūpā). Various reasons are given in the sources for her being ‘bent’. Some of these relate to her personal mythic identity. From this perspective, we are told a little further on in the text that she is bent with bashfulness (lajjā) when she sees Bhairava. Further ahead, after her marriage to the god, she is again ‘bent’.


Lajjā (लज्जा, “modesty”):—One of the twenty-four emanations of Lakṣmī accompanying Nārāyaṇa. This particular manifestation couples with his counterpart form called Dāmodara and together they form the twelfth celestial couple. Lakṣmī represents a form of the Goddess (Devī) as the wife of Viṣṇu, while Nārāyaṇa represents the personification of his creative energy, according to the Pāñcarātra literature.

Lajja, Lajjā: 24 definitions


Introduction:

Lajja means something in Hinduism, Sanskrit, Buddhism, Pali, Marathi, Jainism, Prakrit, Hindi. If you want to know the exact meaning, history, etymology or English translation of this term then check out the descriptions on this page. Add your comment or reference to a book if you want to contribute to this summary article.

In Hinduism

Shaktism (Shakta philosophy)

Source: Wisdom Library: Śrīmad Devī Bhāgavatam

Lajjā (लज्जा, “modesty”):—One of the names attributed to Devī, as chanted by the Vedas in their hymns, who were at the time incarnated in their personified forms. See the Devī-bhāgavata-purāṇa chapter 5.51-68, called “the narrative of Hayagrīva”.

Source: Google Books: Manthanabhairavatantram

Lajjā (लज्जा) refers to “bashfulness”.—The Kubjikāmatatantra tell us that the goddess who emerges from the Liṅga is bent (kubjarūpā). Various reasons are given in the sources for her being ‘bent’. Some of these relate to her personal mythic identity. From this perspective, we are told a little further on in the text that she is bent with bashfulness (lajjā) when she sees Bhairava. Further ahead, after her marriage to the god, she is again ‘bent’.

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Shakta (शाक्त, śākta) or Shaktism (śāktism) represents a tradition of Hinduism where the Goddess (Devi) is revered and worshipped. Shakta literature includes a range of scriptures, including various Agamas and Tantras, although its roots may be traced back to the Vedas.

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Pancaratra (worship of Nārāyaṇa)

Source: Wisdom Library: Pāñcarātra

Lajjā (लज्जा, “modesty”):—One of the twenty-four emanations of Lakṣmī accompanying Nārāyaṇa. This particular manifestation couples with his counterpart form called Dāmodara and together they form the twelfth celestial couple. Lakṣmī represents a form of the Goddess (Devī) as the wife of Viṣṇu, while Nārāyaṇa represents the personification of his creative energy, according to the Pāñcarātra literature.

Pancaratra book cover
context information

Pancaratra (पाञ्चरात्र, pāñcarātra) represents a tradition of Hinduism where Narayana is revered and worshipped. Closeley related to Vaishnavism, the Pancaratra literature includes various Agamas and tantras incorporating many Vaishnava philosophies.

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Purana and Itihasa (epic history)

Source: archive.org: Puranic Encyclopedia

Lajja (लज्ज).—One of the thirteen daughters of Dakṣaprajāpati. The other daughters were, Śraddhā, Lakṣmī, etc. (Chapter 7, Aṃśa 1, Viṣṇu Purāṇa).

Source: archive.org: Shiva Purana - English Translation

1) Lajjā (लज्जा, “bashfulness”) is one of the twenty-four daughters of Dakṣa by Prasūti: one of the three daughters of Svāyambhuvamanu and Śatarūpā, according to the Śivapurāṇa 2.1.16:—“Dakṣa begot twenty-four daughters. Thirteen daughters Śraddhā etc. were given to Dharma in marriage by Dakṣa. O lordly sage, listen to the names of Dharma’s wives. Their names are [... Lajjā (bashfulness),...]. Thereupon the entire universe consisting of three worlds, mobile and immobile was filled (with progeny). Thus according to their own actions and at the bidding of Śiva innumerable famous Brahmins were born out of the various living beings”.

2) Lajjā (लज्जा, “bashfulness”) refers to “bashful” or “shyness”, according to the Śivapurāṇa 2.2.19. Accordingly as Brahmā narrated to Nārada:—“[...] since she [viz., Satī] was bashful (lajjā) in the presence of Śiva I could not see her face. She did not show out her face on account of shyness (lajjā)”.

Source: Cologne Digital Sanskrit Dictionaries: The Purana Index

1a) Lajjā (लज्जा).—A Śakti.*

1b) R. from Ṛṣyavān.*

1c) A daughter of Dakṣa;1 married Dharma;2 mother of Vinaya.3

Source: JatLand: List of Mahabharata people and places

Lajjā (लज्जा) is a name mentioned in the Mahābhārata (cf. I.60.14) and represents one of the many proper names used for people and places. Note: The Mahābhārata (mentioning Lajjā) is a Sanskrit epic poem consisting of 100,000 ślokas (metrical verses) and is over 2000 years old.

Monday, September 27, 2021

mardavam

Mardavam is a Sanskrit word that means “gentleness.” In the Bhagavad Gita, it is listed as one of the 26 virtues that those “endowed with divine nature” possess. The sadhaka, or spiritual seekers, strive to attain these spiritual attributes. Sometimes referred to as the “divine wealth” or by the Sanskrit term, daivi sampat, the 26 virtues pave the way to the attainment of moksha and freedom from the cycle of life, death and rebirth.
Mardavam and the other virtues are valued on the yogic path to unity with the Divine or higher Self.
Attaining moksha is not possible without mardavam. Someone who lacks mardavam shows insensitivity and lack of compassion, but the yogi who embraces mardavam opens his/her heart to grow spiritually. This mardavam extends beyond human interaction to include gentleness with animals and material objects, for the heart cannot be gentle if the actions lack gentleness.
The daivi sampat, often attributed to Lord Krishna, is described in the first three verses of Chapter 16 in the Bhagavad Gita.
Verse 1:
  • Abhayam (fearlessness)
  • Sattva samshuddhi (purity of heart)
  • Jnana yoga vyavasthitih (devotion to the yogic path of knowledge)
  • Dana (charity)
  • Dama (self restraint)
  • Yajna (sacrifice)
  • Svadhyaya (study of one's self)
  • Tapas (austerity)
  • Arjavam (uprightness/straightforwardness)
Verse 2:
  • Ahimsa (doing no harm)
  • Satyam (truth)
  • Skrodha (lack of anger)
  • Tyaga (renunciation)
  • Shanti (peace/mental tranquility)
  • Apaisunam (absence of fault-finding)
  • Daya (compassion)
  • Aloluptvam (non-covetousness)
  • Mardavam (gentleness)
  • Hrih (modesty)
  • Achapalam (steadiness/non-fickle)
Verse 3:
  • Tejas (vigor)
  • Ksama (forgiveness)
  • Dhriti (fortitude/patience)
  • Shaucha (purity of body and mind)
  • Adroha (absence of malice)
  • Na atimanita (lack of excessive pride.
Mārdava (Sanskrit: मार्दव) or Maddava (Pali) means mildness, softness, gentleness, kindness, weakness and pliancy (leniency).
Mardava as a divine quality is to be lenient with those who make mistakes, to never be offended and remains always quiet when people revile or ignore God. To be gentle is to make friends easily.  It is to know that ignorance is the likely reasons for the naysaying response. Mardava is softness, letting go of ego. Mardava is a gentleness with all objects and weakness, it is compassion extended to the lifeless and weak, Swami Tejomayānanda explains:
"We can augment our compassion with the practice of mārdavam or gentleness. This is an attitude of mind that is not only limited to living things but extends to insentient material objects as well. If we handle all the things with care, they will serve us beautifully. For instance, some people take proper care of their cars but others are so rough with them, there is no gentleness when they apply the brake, change gears or shut the door. In the same way, we should remember that shoes are serving our feet and we should place them down with respect. Once a man came running to a Zen Master, threw his shoes here and there and fell at his feet saying, Please teach me about God. The Master calmly replied, First learn to respect your shoes. How we take care of inert objects reveals the state of the mind. This mārdavam is a disposition of the mind. When a person has this state of mind, all his actions have a quality of gentleness.
In Hinduism, there are eight aśtopāyas, or eight ways of attaining moksha, and Mārdava is one of them, the other seven being – Yajna (यज्ञ) (sacrifices), Dāna (दान) (charity), Vedadhyayana (the study of the Vedas), Tapas (तप) (penance, deep meditation), Dama (दम) (subduing the senses by restraining the sense-organs), Satya (सत्य) (truth in speech and act), and Tyāga (त्याग) (renunciation of desire).
In Jainismmārdava or compassion or supreme tenderness or humility, which is part of Right Belief, is a means to destroy vanity or egotism which gives rise to many evils which defile the virtues of our soul; it is held that humility is the foundation of compassion and the basis for salvation. With the eight kinds of pride totally avoided, knowledge brings humility. Tattvārthasūtra (IX.6) lists mārdava (modesty) as one of the ten aspects of the highest dharma .
Bhagavad Gita (XVI.1-3) also classifies mārdava as a divine quality and the Buddhists consider mārdava as the realization of Dharma (dharma-pratipatti)
Patanjali mentions mārdava as a low pitch along with anvavavasarga and udutā khasya; he explains this word as svarasya mridutā or snigdhatā (smoothness of sound).

 

Anasuya.

 Her mother was Devahuti and her father was sage Kardama, Sage Kapila was her brother and teacher. She is extolled as Sati Anusuya – Anusuya, the chaste wife of sage Atri. She later became the mother of Dattatreya, the sage-avatar of Vishnu and Durvasa, the irascible sage. When Sita and Rama visited her during their exile, Anusuya was very attentive to them, giving Sita an ointment which could maintain her beauty forever.

The story of Anasuya's family is mentioned in Bhagavata Purana Skanda III. Sage Kardama married Devahuti, daughter of Swayambhu Manu. They had ten children, a son named Kapila Maharshi (Lord Vishnu's avatar) and nine daughters including Anasuya. As each daughter was married to a rishi, Anasuya was married to Athri Maharshi.

The Divine Trinity tests Anasuya

Anasuya feeding the Hindu Trinity

Sage Narada praised Anasuya in his hymns and verses, by which LaxmiParvati and Saraswati wanted to learn pativratya from Anasuya. They requested their husbands go ask her permission so that they could visit her in human form. The Divine Trinity went to Anasuya disguised as sages and asked permission for their wives in the form of bhiksha, on the condition that she would be naked while serving them.

At first she was perplexed, but ultimately she understood who they were thanks to her yogic powers. She turned them into 6-month-old babies and removed her clothes to feed them with motherly affection. Many days passed as the three goddesses waited for their husbands to return. When the husbands did not return, they traveled to Anasuya's cottage and found them transformed into children. The Goddesses requested Anasuya to bring them back to normal.

According to a popular version, the Holy Trinity was pleased with her chastity and devotion towards her husband, who then granted her a boon. She asked the Holy Trinity to be incarnated as her children, three sons and a daughter named Shubhatreyi. Another version relays a different result in which the gods merged and turned into Anasuya's three-headed son.

A Bhagavata Purana manuscript page depicting the story of Atri and Anasuya meeting the Trimurti (PhP 4.1.21–25) (paper, late 18th century, Jaipur)

A Brahmin named Kaushik from Pratishthan used to visit a prostitute, despite being a Brahmin and having a devoted wife. When he later became infected with leprosy, the prostitute stopped seeing him, forcing him to return to his wife who still cared for him. He still longed for the affection of the prostitute, so one day, he asked his wife to take him to her.

In that town, sage Mandavya had been impaled in lieu of a crime and was lying on a spike in the forest. While being led by his wife through the deep forest at night, Kaushik happened to trip on the sage, who cursed him to death before the next sunrise. To stop the curse, Kaushik's wife stopped the sunrise with the power of her love, creating havoc in the heavens. The gods went to Brahma for help, who in turn went to Anasuya, asking her to convince Kaushik's wife to allow the sunrise.

Anasuya not only convinced Kaushik's wife to allow the sun to rise but also brought Kaushik back to life after the curse had run its course. Brahma was very happy with Anusuya and was then born to her as Chandraatri.

Sometime later, Rahu masked the sun, cloaking the whole world in darkness. With powers granted by many years of austerity, Atri wrested the sun out of Rahu's hands, restoring light to the world and pleasing the gods.