The Two Sorrows Hanumān Carried — Sītā’s Tears and Rāma’s Tears
From Tulsidas’s Śrī Rāmcharitmānas — Sundar Kāṇḍ
There are moments in the Rāmāyaṇa when the greatness of Hanumān is revealed not through his extraordinary strength, but through the love he carries in his heart.
He crosses the vast ocean, discovers Sītā in Lanka, brings her a message of hope and returns to Rāma with news of her whereabouts.
But this is much more than a mission of courage and intelligence.
Hanumān becomes the one person with whom both Sītā and Rāma can share their sorrow.
Sītā is separated from Rāma and held captive in Lanka. Rāma is separated from Sītā and consumed by anxiety about her safety. Between them stands Hanumān, carrying the anguish of one to the other and bringing hope in return.
1. Sītā’s sorrow — the fire of separation
Imagine Sītā in the Aśoka grove.
She is far away from Rāma, surrounded by her captors and uncertain of when she will see her beloved again. Her heart is consumed by separation.
Tulsidas expresses her anguish in these unforgettable lines:
बिरह अगिनि तनु तूल समीरा। स्वास जरइ छन माहिं सरीरा॥ नयन स्रवहिं जलु निज हित लागी। जरैं न पाव देह बिरहागी॥४॥
Biraha agini tanu tūla samīrā,
Svāsa jarai chhana māhiṁ sarīrā.
Nayana sravahiṁ jalu nija hita lāgī,
Jarai na pāva deha birahāgī.
“The fire of separation burns within me. My body is like cotton, and my breath is like the wind that can consume it in an instant.
Tears flow from my eyes, as though to protect me; otherwise, my body, scorched by the fire of separation, would be reduced to ashes.”
What a powerful image!
Separation is a fire. Sītā’s delicate body is like cotton, and every breath seems to fan the flames. Her tears are the only relief from the burning anguish within her.
This is not merely the sadness of being away from a loved one. It is the agony of a heart whose whole world is centred on Rāma.
Then Hanumān arrives.
He speaks of Rāma, assures her that He is searching for her and restores her hope. Sītā now has someone to whom she can entrust her sorrow, someone who can carry her words to the one she longs to see.
Hanumān listens, understands and accepts this sacred responsibility.
He must return to Rāma carrying not merely a message, but the pain of Sītā’s separation.
2. Rāma’s sorrow — a debt that can never be repaid
When Hanumān returns and tells Rāma that he has found Sītā, he brings precious news. Sītā is alive. She remembers Rāma. She is waiting for Him.
Yet the separation continues. Rāma knows that His beloved is still far away, held captive in Lanka.
Hanumān has seen her with his own eyes. He has heard her words and witnessed her suffering. He has given her hope and brought that hope back to Rāma.
And then comes one of the most touching moments in Tulsidas’s Rāmcharitmānas.
Rāma says:
सुनु सुत तोहि उरिन मैं नाहीं। देखेउँ करि बिचार मन माहीं॥ पुनि पुनि कपिहि चितव सुरत्राता। लोचन नीर पुलक अति गाता॥
Sunu suta tohi urin mai nāhīṁ,
Dekheu kari bichār mana māhīṁ.
Puni puni kapihi chitava suratrātā,
Lochana nīra pulaka ati gātā.
“Listen, my son! I have thought deeply about this, but I cannot free myself from the debt I owe you.”
Rāma gazes at Hanumān again and again. Tears fill His eyes, and His body thrills with emotion.
Pause for a moment and imagine this scene.
Rāma, the Lord of the universe, tells His devotee that He cannot repay him.
Hanumān has crossed the ocean, found Sītā, comforted her and brought back the news that Rāma longed to hear. He has done all this without asking for a reward.
Rāma does not simply praise him for completing a difficult mission. He looks at him with overflowing love and emotion.
The Lord Himself feels indebted to His devotee.
3. Two sorrows, one messenger
When we place these two moments together, we discover a beautiful symmetry.
Sītā shares her anguish with Hanumān because she trusts him to reach Rāma.
Rāma receives Sītā’s message through Hanumān, and His own heart overflows with gratitude for the devotee who has brought Him hope.
Sītā’s tears arise from separation. Rāma’s tears arise from love, relief and gratitude, even as the pain of separation remains.
And Hanumān stands between them.
He cannot immediately end their suffering. He cannot reunite them that very moment. But he changes their helpless waiting into hope.
He carries Sītā’s words to Rāma. He carries Rāma’s love back through his unwavering service. He becomes the bridge connecting two hearts separated by an ocean.
What extraordinary service!
He is strong enough to cross the ocean, wise enough to understand their suffering, gentle enough to comfort Sītā and devoted enough to receive Rāma’s affection without seeking anything for himself.
His greatness lies not merely in what he accomplishes, but in the love with which he accomplishes it.
4. When God Himself feels indebted
We often think of devotion as the devotee’s gratitude towards God. Here, Tulsidas gives us an even more beautiful picture: the Lord Himself feels indebted to His devotee.
Hanumān does not calculate the value of his service. He does not ask what he will receive in return. His greatest happiness lies in serving Rāma and Sītā.
And yet, Sītā entrusts her sorrow to him, while Rāma looks at him with tears in His eyes.
The devotee thinks, “How fortunate I am to serve my Lord.”
And the Lord thinks, “How can I ever repay the love of My devotee?”
That is the beauty of bhakti. Service offered with love becomes more precious than any material gift. Divine love is not distant or impersonal; it responds, embraces and feels.
5. What Hanumān teaches us
Sometimes, we cannot remove another person’s suffering. We may not be able to solve a problem or bring about an immediate reunion.
But we can listen. We can carry a message faithfully. We can offer reassurance and help someone find the strength to continue.
We can become a bridge between two people separated by distance, misunderstanding or sorrow.
Hanumān teaches us that the greatest service is not always about performing a mighty deed. Sometimes it is about understanding another person’s pain and carrying their hope forward without expecting anything in return.
Sītā entrusted her sorrow to Hanumān. Rāma overwhelmed him with tears of gratitude. And Hanumān carried both with a heart that asked for nothing in return.
That is the greatness of Hanumān — not only the mighty warrior who crossed the ocean, but the compassionate devotee who carried the grief of Rāma and Sītā and transformed their waiting into hope.
Jai Śrī Rām! Jai Sītā Rām! Jai Hanumān!




